Where is my Defense of Unmarried Act?

Marriage. No thanks

DOMA (Defense of Marriage Act) has been deemed unconstitutional by the Supreme Court. This federal prohibition against gay couples getting married has been repealed. They are no longer discriminated against. But what about the discrimination against those who are unmarried? Who is protecting their benefits?

And how are the legal benefits afforded by the government to married couples (which encourage marriage) helping to protect marriage? Are they doing anything to decrease the dissolution of marriages?

I don’t think the government has much to do with “defending” any marriages. Does the government even make an impact either way?

One thing is for sure…The government has made the social institution of marriage into a legal institution.

Yes, revoking DOMA is not very romantic, but it is necessary if we want to keep our country free from discrimination.

How to meditate with your cat


I sat down to meditate this morning. Soon, Gado came over. (That’s him in the pic.) He sniffed one of my hands, then the other, and then laid out in front of me and slowly shuttered his eyes. He was going to help me meditate. I smiled. Then thought, I think he might be asleep.

But knowing he was there did help me even though he wasn’t doing anything. He wasn’t guiding my meditation. He wasn’t even fetching me a towel. But he was still there for me. He made me feel better, and that isn’t something I should dismiss. That foundation of good feeling is what allows me to focus and do what I need to do. He may have no idea what’s going on, but he is helping. And you know what? I’m helping him too. But it’s with something so subtle and simple that I forget. But sometimes we don’t need explanations. We just need to stretch out on the ground by a friend and clear our head.