It takes strength to leave alone the misinformation by those in the careless internet mobs who are twisting stats and taking quotes out of context to suit their political agendas.
Sometimes you gotta let the internet be, and accept the toxicity of biased emotional agendas…
just so you can keep your sanity.
How people view you is how they view you: It is an opinion.
Certainly your history is a significant yard stick of what you’re capable of, yet it is only an estimation made by others based on personal biases and snapshots, bits and pieces made into a generalization.
No need to explain yourself to their judgments. Simply let them be.
But don’t allow misrepresentation and assumptions to be perpetuated by being polite.
Speak out. Or else emotion become action. And noisy mobs become truth makers.
Sensitivities about fringe actors who hate based on tribal instincts are understandable.
But they don’t excuse the creation of ‘us vs them’ mobs who think they’re superior to each other.
Art credit: @kristenervin
Keep loving.
Despite the careless ones.
Despite the impatient ones.
Despite the hateful ones.
Keep loving.
Battle lines drawn.
Positions solidified.
Arguments made.
All thrilling, perhaps fun, but unlikely to change minds.
If your cause is important enough, it’s worth taking the time and emotional energy to make your case without an argument. The opportunity is to recast your outcome in terms of the other person’s worldview, not insist that they change what they want or what they think they know.
The culture isn’t immutable. You can change it.
But not by picking a fight.
Reposted from Seth Godin’s blog.
Walmart…and McDonald’s… and Tyson, Foods, can (and do) dictate the price of goods they buy because of their monopoly-like influence over their suppliers.
Similarly, large media conglomerates…including Google, YouTube, and Facebook, can (and do) dictate what is allowed to be communicated by their customers.
Orwell wasn’t especially smart (or paranoid) in predicting a future where your words and actions are monitored and controlled. He was simply observing the consequences of human nature, seen throughout history:
Power is concentrated in large institutions, whether they are large corporate institutions or large government institutions. And after time, that power is abused.
The questions is: Why do we elect government leaders who continue to allow these large corporate institutions to disrupt our economy?
Why allow such influence on our businesses, our speech…over our very livelihood?
When my group gets criticized, I feel criticized…because my identity is a group identity more than from an individual sense of self.
Why so much about labels? Life is more complicated than generalizing people based on their group.
Or are we simply mindless units in a judgmental mob?
I must get the full picture
Know the importance of all factors in the situation, as best I can.
And reality is more complicated than generalizations.
Real knowledge is to know the extent of one’s ignorance.
Being denied promotion is a result of judgment by the patriarchy.
And being awarded a promotion is a result of judgment by the patriarchy.
This is because leadership is usually male, and males care about winning. They don’t really care about feelings, or your gender, or whether a group is diverse. They care about whether you can lead definitively and produce effectively.
Those who work more are rewarded more. This is because the job market is a field of competition. If you are male and can’t compete, you are left behind. And if you’re a female and can’t compete, you, too, are left behind.
Competition doesn’t care about who you are. It cares about what you do better than other people.
Feeling victimized if I don’t excel in this competition is like walking on the football field and asking, “Why do only big guys get to play?”
Of course, there is sexism in the workplace, and it prejudges women. This is one of many factors that affect your success in the marketplace. Of all these factors, the one that most powerfully impacts my success is not trying.
Maybe I don’t try because I see myself as being helpless to the boss, or helpless to the system. But victimizing myself reveals my subservient nature. It’s an attitude which allows others to rule my life.
And yet, the patriarchy does not rule me… or you. It is not your friend, and it is not your enemy.
It is an invisible hand that rewards skills, competence, and drive.
It rewards toughness over agreeableness.
The patriarchy is not a moral entity. That’s like saying a river is moral or immoral depending on where it flows. The patriarchy is a state of being that maximizes wins and minimizes loss, like Evolution, which relentlessly removes the weak from the herd through competition, so that the herd maintains its strength.
But, unlike a river, the patriarchy is not just a force of nature, but also a manifestation of humanity’s values.
If the patriarchy changes, it is a change which comes from within us, from a change in nature, and a change in nurture…a change in what you choose to nurture and encourage in your life.
The patriarchy is not a conspiracy from an authority which favors members of its own kind, but a natural progression of competition and societal values. It is who we are…for now. And as a consumer/producer/employee, you decide what is acceptable, through your actions, and how you choose to live your life.
So… what do you choose?
This is a message to the men out there.
Do you think women are equal to men?
Do you think women are to be respected?
The answer to the first question is No, because the answer to the second is Yes.
Many men have the endless song beating in their hearts…the song of attraction. The song of attraction that is their major distraction. The attraction to females: It is the problem of men. Until the day they embrace it.
The most fulfilling day in a man’s life, the day he awakens and comes to maturity, is when he accepts himself and his helpless attraction. When he accepts that loving women is nothing to be ashamed of. This realization is shocking, and liberating. But it’s not enough.
The second step is taking her down from the pedestal. When we put the female on a pedestal, we are making her a separate being: We are putting a distance between us. Why treat them in such a way?
Because they are not equal to us.
This we must acknowledge: We must see the magic in females. Their ability to create life is something profound and precious and, well… magical. A magic of biology that men cannot equal. We plant the seed, yes. And we support, and we protect.
While females create life.
But placing her on a pedestal segregates us. It prevents us from honest communication and understanding each other…understanding the feelings which underpin her life. But most of all, the separation prevents us from truly supporting them as a human being. Instead, we make them into an object in a showcase.
So bring her down from the pedestal. Have her join you, stand by her side.
It’s you and her against the world.
And we need each other.
