Do you smell the rot?

Less envy

How much of what I do is dependent on what others are doing?

How much of my day is in reaction?

Too much reaction and I’ve given up my self-determination to my environment. I’ve become a dead leaf floating on the river, a plastic bag swirling in the wind.
But we’re not objects. We’re human. We’re independent agents, with wants, and ambitions, and love.

Immigrants aren’t taking your jobs. The idea that they are YOUR jobs is a funny thing to think, anyway.  And kind of entitled.

And white people, or the corporation, isn’t making you a slave. They’re not taking away your abilities. You are.

There are obstacles out there, and there are paths and open pastures. When all you see are problems, you’ll end up stuck behind every obstacle, cursing the world for its cruelty.
But the world doesn’t care.
Who does care?
The people to whom you provide value.
Because our country has become a meritocracy. Of course, it helps to be rich to get to where you want, but at the end of the day,
If you provide value, you get promoted.
If in doubt, please reference all the immigrants who c0me to this country poor, and now make up the highest earning demographic in the US. And, incredibly, they include brown people. (Which reminds me: I have a great curry recipe to share in another post.)
Bottom line:
You have a huge chance in life, being alive today, in the most empowering time for the individual. The gatekeepers are gone. Corporations still control the government, yes, but you still control you.
If I choose to see only the rotting fruit on the tree of life, instead of the bounty of the whole tree, then I’m never going to truly live.

Why did you come out with me? I asked.


As soon as I saw her walk into the place, I was aroused. Embedded in my mind: Tall, with angled cheek bones, her eyes drew you in. There was energy smoldering there.

I came to find out later, she consumed your energy, like a black hole, sucking you in, a high gravity pool at infinite depth. I found this out later, but now, as I sat with her on my sofa, I was curious.

‘What made you come out with me?’ I asked.

‘It was easy to talk to you,’ she said. ‘It wasn’t weird. I remember my friends looking over at me, like what’s up? Why are you still over there talking to him? We were just flowing.’

‘You knew I liked you, right?’ I said.

‘I figured,’ she smiled.

‘How?’ I asked.

‘Because you complimented me,’ she said.

I smiled. ‘Yes.’

‘But guys can be creepy,’ she said. ‘Creeps hit on me.’ She made a disgusted face and shook her head.

I was surprised. Not at her getting compliments, but that guys were unable to pay a compliment without being creepy. Maybe those guys were just creeps. Or unable to express themselves properly.

Anyway, we enjoyed our time together. She drew me in, with those eyes, and heart, and carelessness. She lived without thought to her well-being, which triggered my “fix-it” sensibility. But the abuses from childhood were too much, and suddenly it was over. We were over, and I wondered how I had ended up on such a trip with her. Where had my mind gone?

But I learned from her, as I do from all the women who enter my world. I listen at the knee of females. I gather their feelings, amd experiences, and ideas… little pieces to fit together. Pieces of the puzzle that I will never complete. The puzzle of the female spirit.

What’s my purpose?

A person who doesn’t know what the universe is, doesn’t know where they are.

A person who doesn’t know their purpose in life doesn’t know who they are or what the universe is.

A person who doesn’t know any one of these things doesn’t know why they are here.

So what to make of people who seek or avoid the praise of those who have no knowledge of where or who they are?

What’s your purpose?

What are you here for?

Photo and quote: Marcus Aurelius

Babies stay crawling

The obstacle is the way.
The way to getting better.

If a baby doesn’t risk falling, he doesn’t learn to walk.

If you don’t make mistakes during school, you don’t learn and get better.

Same thing during adulthood, but you’ve got to choose to school yourself
Instead of only identifying obstacles
I must also face them.

Evolution occurs through mistakes,
with genes, on a population level.
But it also occurs on the individual level.

My fears are fears because they are parts of my life I have difficulty with.

But every fear that I’ve addressed, from leaving school, to talking with strangers, to expressing myself to females-
they’ve all resulted in a better life.
I learned
That failures make me stronger.

More resilient.

If your baby doesn’t risk falling, it stays crawling. Which can be good enough, I guess.

But what kind of life is crawling around while there’s so much more to experience
If you try?

Dragons became princesses.
And my dungeons became sunlit courtyards.


Do I have the courage to go against fear and deception and those who want to control me?

Do I know that there’s difference between someone taking something from me vs not giving me something? The first is an evil..the second is an inconvenience.

Do I have the mind to know what’s important and right…? and to fight for that, without anger or menace, regardless of the consequence?

We’ve got the best empathy.

The thing I didn’t realize about empathy is how it enables me to become better.

I didn’t realize it until I had enough confidence to step out from the house of fear I’d built around me.

Empathy gives the strength to absorb other people’s stories and opinions …to simply listen. And then realize they are in need, just like you.

A need to do something significant that people care about.

Big guy, big reach. Skinny guys fight ’til they’re burger.

“Labor is prior to, and independent of, capital.

Capital is only the fruit of labor, and could never have existed if labor had not first existed.

Labor is the superior of capital, and deserves much the higher consideration.”

If we’re worried first about capital instead of labor, then we’re doing it the hard way.

And if owners treat labor less than their value, then they will get just enough loyalty from labor to last till the next paycheck.

What’s the best way to address managers who don’t see your value?

Find someone one does.
Or, reassess your value.

The Pub Crawl


We were doing a pub crawl in New York, an A-Z pub crawl. I run into Bill Murray at a place in the Village, and I said, “Billy, we’re going to go on a pub crawl and do you want to go with us?”
He said, “sure.” So we’re walking down the street, there’s Antique Boutique, and he goes, “Hold on.” He runs in and comes out with an orange tie.
I said, “What’s that for?”
He says, “Didn’t you say on SportsCenter that the hardest thing about being the coach of Tennessee is trying to find those god-awful ties?” He said, “Put this on!”
I put it on, we went on the A-to-Z pub crawl, we for to letter L…and there’s a street sweeper; the machine is on. And Bill goes, “What are you thinking?”
I go, “I don’t know. Am I thinking what you’re thinking?”
He said, “Let’s steal this thing.”
I wasn’t thinking that. I wasn’t. I was thinking, let’s go to the next bar. I didn’t even know the thing was running, and Billy goes, “Let’s get in it.” So he starts to climb up in the street cleaner.
And this guy runs out and he’s like,” What are doing? I’ll lose my job!”
And he’s sees it’s Bill and I think Bill said, “Don’t worry.” He said, “Can I just take it down the street a little bit?”


So we just inched along like a tank down the street.

I tried to control because I was fearful

Souls love

Some of you will think this is nonsense.
Others will accept this as true.

Regardless, everyone has experienced a part of this, if only in short bursts.

Imagine living your life based not on your fears, but on your connection to everything else. That’s when you become strong, because you realize no one is an enemy. And so you stop trying to control, and instead, you start listening.

You start helping, instead of hiding, hiding under labels, and in groups that oppose that other group. Instead of living on dogmatic rules of what must be, you live by principles.

You become honest to what we are: One big group, that needs each other.

Tyranny comes from within

As soon I see another person as being in opposition to me, as being on the “other side”, I have lost. Because I’ve reduced a real-life problem into a 2-dimensional mockery, a binary choice, disrespectful of debate which would lead to the best outcome.

The powers that be love keeping us choosing between right and left, but don’t blame them. It’s what we do: We reduce issues to for or against. And in doing so, we welcome the tyranny
and impede progress