Realizing that I hurt someone that I cared about is the most painful thing I’ve ever experienced in my life.
But I remind myself that this regret is necessary for me to make amends. To be a better person for the future. Nothing in life stays the same.
Witness faults bravely despite the damage they have caused.
This mindset is in our control.
Jung said: “One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.”
Fears, insecurities, anger, and anxieties. They sit in the dark parts of us, but you can address them. Not by wrestling with them, or resisting them, or pushing them away. But observing them without judgment.
The lights of life get brighter without needing to resist anything. You will stay with those uncomfortable moments, when they arise, but sooner or later, you will realize that that’s not the direction you want to go. And maybe you will love yourself enough to let it go.
But it starts with honest self-awareness. And it needs communication with fellow human beings who are here to share with each other…not just the joys, but the painful parts of life
These words speak to me as I’ve suffered through this situation. Most everything in our lives suffers when we lack honesty in our communications and behaviors. How can things get better without knowing how things are really going?