Under the anger lurks my fear


Fear and anxiety are potent hallucinagens.

They make my surrounding suspicious and ominous, holding hurdles and hiding enemies.

It takes courage to see my environment as it is, because the world is not my friend.

But it’s not my enemy either.

It’s filled with people, simply trying to be happy.

Like me.

There is no right or wrong out here on the internet

Someone is wrong

It takes strength to leave alone the misinformation by those in the careless internet mobs who are twisting stats and taking quotes out of context to suit their political agendas.

Sometimes you gotta let the internet be, and accept the toxicity of biased emotional agendas…

just so you can keep your sanity.

You know what happens when you assume?

never apologize

How people view you is how they view you: It is an opinion.

Certainly your history is a significant yard stick of what you’re capable of, yet it is only an estimation made by others based on personal biases and snapshots, bits and pieces made into a generalization.

No need to explain yourself to their judgments. Simply let them be.

But don’t allow misrepresentation and assumptions to be perpetuated by being polite.

Speak out. Or else emotion become action. And noisy mobs become truth makers.

The fight satisfies


Battle lines drawn.

Positions solidified.

Arguments made.

All thrilling, perhaps fun, but unlikely to change minds.

If your cause is important enough, it’s worth taking the time and emotional energy to make your case without an argument. The opportunity is to recast your outcome in terms of the other person’s worldview, not insist that they change what they want or what they think they know.

The culture isn’t immutable. You can change it.

But not by picking a fight.


Reposted from Seth Godin’s blog.


Is it corruption if everyone accepts it?


Walmart…and McDonald’s… and Tyson, Foods, can (and do) dictate the price of goods they buy because of their monopoly-like influence over their suppliers.

Similarly, large media conglomerates…including Google, YouTube, and Facebook, can (and do) dictate what is allowed to be communicated by their customers.

Orwell wasn’t especially smart (or paranoid) in predicting a future where your words and actions are monitored and controlled.  He was simply observing the consequences of human nature, seen throughout history:

Power is concentrated in large institutions, whether they are large corporate institutions or large government institutions.  And after time, that power is abused.

The questions is: Why do we elect government leaders who continue to allow these large corporate institutions to disrupt our economy?

Why allow such influence on our businesses, our speech…over our very livelihood?

Confucius vs tribalists

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I must get the full picture

Know the importance of all factors in the situation, as best I can.

Before I conclude something.
Especially if I’m not involved in the situation personally.
My judgments on a person based on a group I assign him or her are just that:
My personal prejudice.
Based on tribalism.
Based on “it’s us against them”
Based on generalizations.

And reality is more complicated than generalizations.

Real knowledge is to know the extent of one’s ignorance.


The patriarchy is not your friend

Being denied promotion is a result of judgment by the patriarchy.

And being awarded a promotion is a result of judgment by the patriarchy.

This is because leadership is usually male, and males care about winning. They don’t really care about feelings, or your gender, or whether a group is diverse.  They care about whether you can lead definitively and produce effectively.

Those who work more are rewarded more. This is because the job market is a field of competition. If you are male and can’t compete, you are left behind. And if you’re a female and can’t compete, you, too, are left behind.

Competition doesn’t care about who you are.  It cares about what you do better than other people.

Feeling victimized if I don’t excel in this competition is like walking on the football field and asking, “Why do only big guys get to play?”

Of course, there is sexism in the workplace, and it prejudges women. This is one of many factors that affect your success in the marketplace.  Of all these factors, the one that most powerfully impacts my success is not trying.

Maybe I don’t try because I see myself as being helpless to the boss, or helpless to the system.  But victimizing myself reveals my subservient nature. It’s an attitude which allows others to rule my life.

And yet, the patriarchy does not rule me… or you.  It is not your friend, and it is not your enemy.

It is an invisible hand that rewards skills, competence, and drive.

It rewards toughness over agreeableness.

The patriarchy is not a moral entity.  That’s like saying a river is moral or immoral depending on where it flows. The patriarchy is a state of being that maximizes wins and minimizes loss, like Evolution, which relentlessly removes the weak from the herd through competition, so that the herd maintains its strength.

But, unlike a river, the patriarchy is not just a force of nature, but also a manifestation of humanity’s values.

If the patriarchy changes, it is a change which comes from within us, from a change in nature, and a change in nurture…a change in what you choose to nurture and encourage in your life.

The patriarchy is not a conspiracy from an authority which favors members of its own kind, but a natural progression of competition and societal values.  It is who we are…for now.  And as a consumer/producer/employee, you decide what is acceptable, through your actions, and how you choose to live your life.

So… what do you choose?